Forgiveness

 Forgiveness is something that is very hard to gain, as well as give. In certain situations, you could be a person who is asking for forgiveness when you have done something wrong. You could also be the person who has to decide whether or not to forgive that person who has done wrong to you. So as you can see, there are two parts too forgiveness. I feel that forgiveness is a big thing in our lives. We all have fallen under the two parts of forgiveness and believe me, it is not fun at all. We all make mistakes, and the topic of forgiveness comes up. It sucks but in reality, we have to face it when we really do not want to at all.
     Should forgiveness be practiced often or once in a while? Well in my honest opinion, forgiveness is different in every single person's life. You could have it every day in your life, or could have it once in a while. It all depends on the mistakes you make in your life or others have made to you. I believe that you should have forgiveness in your life, but you need to be smart with it and not let it affect you down the road. Forgiveness is usually involved with your family, friends and your boyfriend or girlfriend. There should be less forgiveness in my opinion, but not everyone is perfect.
     There has been plenty of times in my life where I have practiced forgiveness. I have fallen under both parts of it and I totally agree that it bites the big one. There is the saying out there that many people follow. It is the term forgive and forget. I, along with many others, have followed this rule, but I can say that it has come back to bite me. For example, when a friend or someone I have feelings for betrays me or does something behind my back, I get mad but I quickly forgive them. That is good sometimes, but this allows them to walk all over me because they know I am so vulnerable about it. It makes me look bad because it makes me look like an idiot. I need to man up and take control when someone does something bad to me. Even though I truly am a forgiving person, I need to be more strict about it because it will better myself.
     There has also been times where I have fallen under the category for asking for forgiveness. More times than most, I am granted forgiveness. But there are also times where people hold it to me down the line. I think if I did what others have done to me, that would totally work because it will not make you want to betray a person like that every again. People can do or same some pretty mean things, but I think that is because they are caught in the heat of the moment. There has been times where I have said mean things to others and others have said mean things to me. But we realize after that they truly didn't mean it and they are sorry about it.
      The only situation where I believe forgiveness is not acceptable is when it comes to cheating or stealing. Once you do one of these things, you're beat in my eyes. Once a cheater or stealer, always a cheater or stealer. There are people out there who forgive everyone for everything. Like I said before, I usually am this type of person, and it is good sometimes but other times it is not good at all. You can't allow someone to walk all over you, you need to take a stand sometimes. You need to forgive them sometimes, and give them a second chance. But you can't allow them to keep doing the same thing over and over again and you forgive ever single time. That doesn't look good on your part. When you forgive everyone for everything yes that is the wise and mature thing to do, but that is all it is. You have to look at it and see what is going to happen when you get older so you don't make the mistakes that will affect you in the long run.